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The Come Back to Yourself Project


    Cultivating a sense of connection to yourself is the key to happiness, but how do you do it? In our Come Back to Yourself project we look at the personal & universal ways we can reconnect on a daily basis.

    Through our first ever film 'The Plum' and an ongoing series of interviews with inspiring women from around the world, we hope to shed a little light on this mysterious life skill. So take a breath, engage your senses, and come back to yourself with us.

     

    Q1. When do you feel most powerful?

    When I make something happen or bring something to fruition out of my own will.
    — Ally Walsh, Canyon Coffee

    Q1. When do you feel most vulnerable?

    When I’m believing my thoughts.
    — Jasmine Hawken, Hairprint

    Q3. How do you reconnect with yourself?

     

    Cooking is my time. It’s where I’m most present, it’s an act of love.
    — Alison Carroll, Wonder Valley

    Q4. What's your favourite sense & why?

    Definitely smell. I love how memory and smell is entwined and can instantly transport me to a different place.
    — Megan Trimble, Zanzan Eyewear
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    Lacy Phillips, Free & Native

    Lacy's the creator of cult holistic living blog Free & Native & a manifestation guide with a waiting list that stretches for months. She epitomizes 'practice what you preach' & is one of the most generous people you'll ever met. 

    When do you feel most powerful?

    When I've grounded myself, practiced self-care, and when I've drawn my energy back in. Recently that's meant barefoot walks in my front-yard and Vedic meditation for grounding. I've also been using the cashmere eye-pillow while I carry out neuroplasticity re-programming during Deep Imaginings. And alone time is always my medicine.

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    When I open my heart. For me that is loving whatever is coming up for myself. Forgiving whatever I didn’t know in the past that I know now. Giving those growing pains space and love. And also practicing compassion and empathy for where others are coming from. Allowing them space, and loving what is coming up for them. Also, radical honesty. Together this takes me out of my ego personas and into my essence of total vulnerability.

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    Journaling, Epson salt baths, travel, morning rituals of burning Ground Ritual Incense and practicing my Kundalini Sadhana. Routines. Freedom from a schedule.

    What's your favourite sense & why?

    It has usually been taste in the past but I’m really opening up my heart into the touch portion. Hugging others for longer. Creating space for deeper connection. Something I myself never learned.

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    Ally Walsh, Canyon Coffee

    Ally's a Wilhelmina model & the co-founder of our favorite morning cup Canyon Coffee. Her approach to life is open, intuitive & full of love - in other words, she's magnetic.

    When do you feel most powerful?

    I feel powerful when I make something happen or bring something to fruition out of my own will. It could be anything from achieving a goal for the company or traveling some place I have always wanted to visit although, usually that feeling doesn't come until I reflect on what I've accomplished.  I also think that feeling powerful comes from saying 'no' to things in order to make time for myself.

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    In private, usually! Those real conversations with the people you love most. When your words are rooted in the deepest, strongest feelings and emotions you carry. 

    I think allowing yourself to be vulnerable is what brings the best opportunities for growth. Those times when you do things that don’t feel comfortable, but you know it’s right. I think I’ve had a lot of those moments as we’ve started our business, stepping into new roles and wearing new hats. 

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    I think I depend a lot on rituals for this. Staying grounded and connected to yourself is a daily thing, even hourly. So any time I make coffee or tea or take a bath I’m giving myself the opportunity to be present. I also create the space for more dedicated silence and reflection to face myself. That usually comes in the form of yoga, a walk on the beach, meditation, or a hike in the mountains.

    What's your favorite sense & why?

    That’s tough. I’m grateful for all my senses! I think I’d have to go with smell though. Smell is so powerful. It’s amazing how it can instantly bring up such vivid memories, old and new.

    I love the anticipation smell brings. The smell of food cooking (curries, spices, cookies in the oven! our lentil soup) or a summer barbecue. Peaches, because they remind me of my grandparents, who would put them in their wine! The smell of coffee. The smells of the seasons. The smell of the mountains when we hike, the fennel growing in the canyons. Evergreens make me think of my dad. When he had his nurseries, he always smelled like Christmas trees. I love smell because it can bring these memories to me so clearly on a moment’s notice.

     

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    Jodi Balfour, Actress

    Jodi's an actress with a deep sensitivity & curiosity for life. She inhabits her many worlds with style, wit & grace. Look out for her in season two of The Crown & the new BBC series Rellik.

    When do you feel most powerful?

    I rarely feel powerful! (slightly sad admission of truth). But I know how to go in pursuit of that feeling.  It includes a long (possibly solo) hike, gaining a good amount of  elevation (literal and figurative), taking in the natural beauty and expansiveness around me. I breathe more deeply. I feel very, very awake - powerful and insignificant all at once.

    And (perhaps the less romantic moments of connecting with my own power) I feel powerful when I prove to myself my own capabilities. When I set my mind to something - do the hard-work it requires - and experience the freedom that comes with showing up for myself and realizing my intentions.

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    Alone in the dark! I'm still an absolute victim to my imagination and my monkey-mind. Turn the lights off and I'm suddenly 5 years old again.

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    I have a little ritual when I'm at home that's almost fail-proof. Meditate - run - swim in the ocean. When I'm working and feeling strung out, I reconnect with myself by creating an environment that helps me feel light and peaceful. I light some incense, put on some of my favorite music, and cook myself a meal that feels nourishing.

    What's your favorite sense & why?

    Hearing. Sound unlocks so much for me. Brings me such comfort. Ignites my creativity. Music and people's voices, birds and trees and the ocean and laughter and quiet... listening is the way I perceive so much of my life. 

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    Megan Trimble, Zanzan

    Megan's the co-founder of our favorite frames Zanzan. She's humble, generously cheerleads other women in business & has a unique eye for timeless sytle.

    When do you feel most powerful?

    When I feel content. When my mind is stilled and calm descends that's void of worry or anxiety. Inner peace is powerful. 

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    When I swim in the deep blue surf in Australia. My imagination goes wild with what lurks beneath. I love an ocean pool or the bath-like Mediterranean for comfort! 

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    By doing anything alone. I need it. It could be spent doing something mundane like tidying while I listen to a podcast but as long as I don't have to speak to anyone. 

    What's your favorite sense & why?

    Definitely smell. I love how memory and smell is entwined and can instantly transport one to a different place. I love how a hot night carries the smell of jasmine or frangipanis. 

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    Cindy DiPrima, CAP Beauty

    Cindy's the co-founder of NYC's ultimate natural beauty store CAP Beauty. She has an effortless chic & her ability to balance motherhood, styling & growing a business will blow your mind.

    When do you feel most powerful?

    After I've done something to shift or change my physiology. A hard run with my husband, an intense bath or sauna, a deep yoga class.

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    When I haven't slept.

    How do you reconnect with yourself?
    Meditation, exercise and time spent with my family and friends.

    What's your favorite sense & why?

    This is such a difficult question but I'd have to go with sight. I'm such a visual person and even my intuition comes through vision.

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    Alison Carroll, Wonder Valley

    Alison's the co-founder of cult olive oil & homewares brand Wonder Valley. She's also the epitome of 'simple done well,' inspiring everyone she meets with her magnetic warmth. 

    When do you feel most powerful?

    When I surprise myself. The most powerful I feel is building our home. There’s so much in that process I never dreamed I could do with my own two hands, skills you just don’t think you can learn. 

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    When I feel overwhelmed, that there’s too much to do and not enough of me to do it. It’s hard for me to shut off the to-do lists. It may sound trite, but I have to give myself permission to just to be ok that things are a work in progress and permission to take a day off. 

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    Self care is pretty important, and so are daily routines-  each morning I apply the Wonder Valley face oil I make with a little facial massage to release any jaw tension, then try to meditate for 15 minutes, stretching a bit after. Feels great! Also cooking is my time. I like being the matriarch of the house and cook most of our meals. It’s a creative process for me, it’s the antidote to time in front of computers and phones, it’s where I’m most present, it’s an act of love. 

    What's your favorite sense & why?

    Scent -  the control it has over a space or memory. and you can’t taste without the sense of scent! 

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    Monroe Alvarez, Shot By Mo

    Monroe's a photographer & creative director with a sharp & curious eye. Her softly fearless heart comes through in everything she does, like our favorite solo series Shot by Mo

    When do you feel most powerful?

    When I accomplish something that Ive been wanting to do. 

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    When I'm in bed with a man that I love.

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    I have a daily morning routine that I make sure to do because its my time for me. I wake up, meditate, and then sit at coffee and write in my journal.

    What's your favourite sense & why?

    My sight of course. Photos are my life. Without my vision I wouldn't be able to create what makes me happy, beautiful photos.

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    Marta Buda, Marta Katarzyna Buda

    Marta's a textile designer and maker known for her incredible woven bags. She has an innate eye for simple beauty that instantly connects with something deeper in us all.

    When do you feel most powerful?

    I feel best when I am motivated, healthy and when my mind is clear. 

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    I feel vulnerable all the time! I only think of this as a negative thing when I feel emotionally crippled from a bad interaction with somebody. I don't think my sensitivity is always a bad thing but if I am over tired or stressed I can't manage it as well and that can affect the rest of my life.

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    Having a family means that to reconnect with myself I have to consciously make an effort to remove myself and take time out. It's not easy to find space to do that so the simplest thing I can do to re-energize is to go for a walk - preferably in nature. Just forcing myself to disconnect and move my body always has such a positive effect on my wellbeing. I also love Yin yoga and the way I feel after it.

    What's your favourite sense & why?

    This is really hard, I don't know how to choose one! Obviously, scent is one of them - it is so important to our memories, our taste (which is another of my favourite senses!) and can even dictate who or what we are attracted to. It can change and lift your mood immediately - like taste - what would we do if we couldn't taste or smell, how sad that would be.   

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    Tara Sowlaty, How You Glow

    Tara's the co-founder of cult lifestyle blog How You Glow & has just launched her latest project The Crystal Manifest. She literally glows with an infectious positivity and generosity that knows no bounds. 

    When do you feel most powerful?

    When I am thriving in all aspects of my life simultaneously. Finding the balance between it all - work, love, friends, family, and self - is so powerful. There is a definite sweet spot, and that's my favorite place to be.

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    When I push myself into new endeavors. I really believe if something is challenging or scary it's worth it, so I really try to relish in the vulnerability. I remind myself that it is a sign of growth. 

    How do you reconnect with yourself? 

    I love rituals with myself; they let me reconnect and recharge to my source intuition. I love Bodha's incense and use it all the time in my home. Scent is such an important part of my self-connection routine. After lighting incense, I take time to breathe, meditate, and stretch. It's a total mind-shifter for me and allows me space to connect with myself on a consistent basis.

    What's your favorite sense & why?

    A magical combination of all the senses. Each enhance the other - sight, smell, taste, & touch make this world a vibrant adventure.

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    Jody Scott, Vogue Australia

    Jody's the Health Editor-At-Large of Australian Vogue & cares deeply about helping people navigate the latest wellness trends. Always chic & always kind she's the epitome of effortless cool.

    When do you feel most powerful?

    When I’m running along the clifftops near my home or swimming in the sea. Often guiding my little girls through new places or experiences makes me feel like a lioness. The urge to protect them and answer their questions makes me feel so alert and in the moment.

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    When I’m running late or have overcommitted to too many things and am worried about how I will get it all done. I think it’s important to stop and feel vulnerable when unexpected events remind me of the fragility of life and how quickly things can change. But mostly, I spend most of my time pretending I’m invincible

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    Mostly by escaping for some time alone to exercise outdoors. Breathwork and meditation help too - especially when I'm pressed for time. And if I can’t do any of those things I reach for chocolate.

    What's your favorite sense & why?

    My favorite sensations are all water related so it must be touch. Floating in the sea, that rush you get when you dive through a wave, getting dumped in the surf or plunging into a cold pool. I love feeling the sun on my skin. I’m always hugging or holding hands with my daughters or playing with their hair. I also love playing with clay and making things with my hands. They are all touch-related sensations. Although I do love taste sensations too. And baking smells make me swoon.

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    Kerrilynn Pamer, CAP Beauty

    Kerrilynn's the co-founder of NYC's ultimate natural beauty store CAP Beauty. She radiates a enigmatic glow & approaches life & business with genuine curiosity.

    When do you feel most powerful?

    After an amazing workout

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    When I'm unprepared.

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    Kundalini allows me to reconnect deeply. And a day at home by myself always feels good. I'm an introvert at heart.

    What's your favourite sense & why?

    I love all my senses, the idea of choosing one stresses me out a bit. But I think that taste might be at the top of my list. But sight and smell are exquisite also. Hard choice, personally I'd like to keep them all.

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    Erin Verinder, Herbalist & Naturopath

    Erin's a herbalist, nutritionist & energetic healer with an international practice operating from the beautiful Blue Mountains. She's a true natural healer - intuitive & compassionate with a deep sense for what someone needs in that moment. 

    When do you feel most powerful?

    When I am in my flow, the space where there is no resistance and only alignment. When I feel really earthed, yet can feel the connection beyond. When I am listening to my own truths, practicing self love and deep care. I feel very powerful when I acknowledge that I am limitless, that those limitations are merely perceived. 

    When do you feel most vulnerable?

    In the quiet alone space, when I am processing emotions that require me to dive deep into them. Vulnerability requires radical self love for me to really embrace it all in its uncomfortable glory. Sitting through the uncomfortable and making it out the other side. I have learnt that so much magic comes from venturing into vulnerability.

    How do you reconnect with yourself?

    For me it’s so important to keep daily rhythms and rituals, it is my medicine. I practice meditation, I eat nourishing food. I slow down. I get into nature, get my feet on/in the earth. I read thought-feel-idea provoking books, I journal my thoughts and feelings. I light Bodha Ground incense many times a day, it is an unspoken signal of welcoming calm connected energy in my home, and is such a small perfect ritual for me I so deeply love. All of the above but the most important reconnection for me is in the simplicity of closing my eyes and taking slow deep grounding breaths in and out.

    What's your favourite sense & why?

    Gratitude for them all! I am totally perplexed in the task to pick one. Scent transports me,  I perceive touch as the ultimate connector sense, sight is my constant reminder of beauty, sound invokes a depth that is hard to put words to and taste is pure joy for me. The sense beyond, the sixth sense may just be my very favourite as I feel I lean into it more and more, and allow it to guide the way I work and walk in the world. It is such an intrinsic sense that demands for me to grow, trust, heal and allow.